Body language can be cause AND effect. For example, when we have rapport with someone, we tend to exhibit certain behaviors (matching, mirroring, eyebrow flash, etc). If we want to establish rapport, we can start by intentionally exhibiting those same behaviors.

So it is with listening.

When you are listening intently, you will show the 3 behaviors covered here. Likewise, when you want to listen intently (but aren’t doing so), you can exhibit these 3 behaviors and you will begin to listen more intently.

Let's cover the 3 components of the body language of listening:

#1 Slightly Tilt Your Head

Component number one is to slightly tilt your head. 

Think about it. You've seen many animals, right? If they hear a sound, there's something that's interesting. What do they do? They tilt their heads. They move their ears. They angle themselves to hear the thing better. Right? You’ve seen cute pictures of kittens or puppies that when a sound is made and they cock their head.

You actu...

Can wearing a mask help you improve your public speaking abilities? 

Absolutely. 

If you were to look at the advice that coaches and public speaking trainers give those who are learning to be better public speakers or to improve their skills, that advice that's given to them is the same advice that someone would give to establish rapport and connection from behind a mask. The tips that they give to both of those groups are the same. So let's go over those. 

My name is Dr. Tori with Influence Everywhere. I'm an expert and influence, persuasion, body language and rapport for improving your relationships and improving behavior change. 

First of all, we're wearing masks all the time, right? (Well, at least, you should be.) When you're wearing a mask, it's an opportunity to practice. Let’s go over three quick things that you can practice every time you wear a mask. These are three tools in your speaking tool belt that you can improve upon while wearing a mask. Do that and you will im...

I did not truly grasp the impact of distractions on our work, and our lives in general, until I began working closely with some of the premier names in Human Factors in Healthcare.

A distraction is one thing. It happens to the best of us… especially these days.

But the act of getting back on task is where the real trouble lies. There is a lag time that occurs after every interruption, an amount of time and energy we must spend to get back on task.

Think about this for a second. It’s the interruption. Not whether or not you actually tended to it.

If someone knocks on your office door and asks, “Do you have a minute?” That is the interruption… Just the act of you hearing that question is the interruption – not whether or not you gave them “a minute”.

And if you did give them that minute, the lag time on getting back to task means that you spent waaay more than a minute.

Well, there’s a time to be available for those sort of things, and there are (more) times not to be. So, how does...