011 Whine and Moan? Or Glad To Be Home? Your Choice

011 Whine and Moan? Or Glad To Be Home? Your Choice


One of our biggest problems in communication is that we tend to do things off-the-cuff, without planning, and without being very deliberate.

Imagine you've had an absolutely awful day and you're just arriving home now. You have a choice to make.

  1. Start off complaining - detailing all of the things that went wrong... or
  2. Start off being glad to be home - and maybe later getting to the details.

If you go in and you complaining, complaining, complaining, you're setting a context. You're shaping the environment. I promise you you'll have one type of evening.

But that's not the only response there is to an awful day. A far better response is to walk in after an awful day... All of the same stuff could have happened, maybe even worse. And when you walk in through that door and somebody asks, "Hey, how was your day?" Your response can be, "[Long sigh] Oh, let's just say I'm really glad to be home." Something like that. A completely different evening. I promise you. Same bad day. Perhaps even the same venting later, but a very different evening.

Why? Because being glad to be home is very different than barging in and complaining. 

  • When you're glad to be home there's a sense of relief.
  • When you're glad to be home it's about them.
  • When you're glad to be home, you're present.

Now, it's not easy, especially if you had a tremendously awful day. What do YOU need to do to be glad to be home? What will it take?

  • Deep breathing exercises
  • Go for a walk
  • Pray
  • Meditate
  • Jot down a few things you're grateful for
  • Listen to your favorite song
  • Listen to some comedy
  • Think of a fond memory you shared with the person you're about to see
  • ...whatever works for you

I actually have a little book that I keep where I write down one or two or three or five things that I'm grateful for about my wife. When I'm able to do that, it gets me centered. And guess what? If I can't even think of any in that moment after a difficult day, I'll start reading the ones I wrote before, and that gets me into a very different state.

When I walk in through that door, when I grab that doorknob, I am actually glad to be home. I'm not just glad to be away from work. I'm present. I'm glad to be with my wife. I'm glad to be with my kids. It's a very different evening.

My question to you is, after an awful day, what will it take for you to be glad to be home?

Whatever it is, DO IT. 

Do whatever it takes for you to get into the optimum state. I'll tell you, the optimum state is not barging in complaining. That is not the optimum state anywhere. So what will it take for you to be glad to be home? Do that thing.

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