003 Deliberate Practice Because Practice Makes... What?

Deliberate Practice Because Practice Makes... What?

With any new skill, we begin unconsciously incompetent. Not only can we not perform the activity, but we don’t even know its relevance. A period of discovery follows. We become consciously incompetent. We know something is important but we still do not know how to do it.

Then, learning begins, usually with the help of someone competent (even better if it’s a coach), until we become consciously competent. Now, we know how to do something but we have to be focused on the steps while doing it. When we no longer have to be attentive to the activity in order to perform it, we are unconsciously competent.

This automaticity comes after deliberate practice. Practice is extremely important but if we practice the wrong thing, we become automatic at the wrong thing. This is why a coach is often needed.

How can we practice influence, persuasion, rapport, body language, engagement, and behavior change? We can practice through our everyday interactions. Observe others’ body language in specific situations and jot down some notes. Everyone’s reaction will be slightly different but there are common themes that will help you get better at detecting and understanding body language. The best place to start learning body language is to practice detecting discomfort.

If you want to get good at any skill, focus on deliberate, optimized practice, ideally with a coach.

Go to InfluenceEverywhere.com for many more resources on influence, communication, relationships, and behavior change.

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